That’s what I dubbed it and oh baby was it ever!!!
Last year I decided to try something radical. I made no resolutions. No goals. Squashed all expectations. Instead I forced myself into letting the year just be. Not letting myself off the hook with the work…Oh no, no, no. But really unhooking the mindset that if I do A, B, and C perfectly then X, Y, and Z will be my rewards.
Hardest thing ever!!!!!
But this is my body so c’mon it’s way past time for me to drop that nonsense, right? I mean if you’ve been following along for even five minutes you know that’s my “MY” body. So I quit.
I embraced probability. I knew I was having weight loss surgery so therefore I would probably lose weight.
Yep that’s all I was giving myself.
After years of ABC = XYZ thinking I had to let go. Honestly, it’s the only thing I hadn’t tried (kinda like having weight loss surgery).
And guess what?
The world did not end.
You mean to tell me I do not need to be all wrapped up in minutia? I don’t need to be perfect? I don’t need to work harder? I don’t need to spend countless hours planning and scheming?
“No darling girl…this is not what you and your body need.”
Guess what else?
I had the most successful year of my life in terms of feeling peace and contentment with the body I have.
Well, whattaya know!
Having weight loss surgery in March was no guarantee in my mind. Over 12 years of diet failure makes it really hard to get excited about anything, even something as radical as weight loss surgery, actually working.
But it did.
It worked beyond all my timid fantasies and certainly beyond my ability to believe. It worked in part because I worked. I put in the effort with zero expectation of reward. Win, lose, or draw I knew there was no going back so my commitment had to be something other than losing X number of pounds. My 2016 commitment was to just be the same me I’ve been for years. You know the one who’s been eating right and exercising appropriately. That’s me under the flab anyway.
Me with a vertical sleeve gastrectomy is over 80 pounds lighter.
I am almost at the end of my losing phase and on to my living phase.
In less than 10 months!
I promise you no one is more shocked than I am.
In less than 10 months my body and this tool combined to do what my body and no tool could not in over a decade of working at all of a lot harder than I am now.
I am NOT dismissing the work I am doing now. Just highlighting how even with so much more effort I wasn’t able to arrive where I am now.
This is what MY body needed.
I mean just look at the difference!!!
I am so grateful I was brave enough to try and to believe in the power of probability. I am also infinitely grateful for the many lessons remaining open to all that is probable have brought to me.
Tomorrow I’ll announce my focus for 2017 and how I am putting the lessons of this year into even deeper practice.
PS…I’m sorry I’ve been gone so long!!! My computer crashed in November. Then in December a partial small bowel obstruction put me in the hospital for eight days. I am so grateful to be coming back into me so strong on the last day of the year. I love that it’s ending just as it began.